How Many Times Do you Give Your Power Away?

The truth is many of us spend our entire lives giving our power away and letting people drain our batteries whenever they please.  My question is this ...is that a problem with them or with you?

I remember a time I would say "yes" to everyone and everything.  I believed it was the right thing to do, to make others happy regardless of how I felt, to cater to others regardless of whether my needs got met, to give my last even when I could find nobody to give me theirs and to be there for everybody who needed me...after all I was called to be ALL THINGS TO ALL PEOPLE right?...actually here's where many of us go WRONG! We cannot pour from an empty cup yet most of us try to do that every day.  As they say, "self preservation is not selfish, it's necessary"

Then there were those who seemed to live just to intentionally irk my last nerves!  They came in the shape of micro-managing bosses, annoying coworkers and troublesome family members.  Once again draining more of my battery. These people had the power to make me mad, upset and ready to go to jail ...I'm sure many of you relate! I mean it wasn't my fault they were jackasses right?

Actually it was my fault.  I made 2 huge mistakes:

LESSON 1:  I had taught them how to treat me and by that I mean ...I had taught them that they could use me however they please with no boundaries or repercussions and technically had allowed them to steal every last drop of energy from me until I had nothing left to give myself.  Funny thing about that, they simply moved on to drain someone else's battery never for one moment stopping to see if I needed a little extra juice to keep me going. Welcome to LIFE!

LESSON 2: I had been freely giving my power away to people by allowing them to control my emotions.  I was letting everything "they" did get to me, acting like it was life and death rather than realizing it was just a job to pay the bills until I could do what I wanted.  Understanding that my annoying coworker was probably a lost soul who needed forgiveness and prayer rather than an butt whooping and that my troubled family member actually might need some professional help.

Did you notice something?  All any of it took was a MINDSET SHIFT! The lessons I learned and now live by allowed me to set boundaries, recharge my batteries, think better, see clearer, become less emotional and above all CLAIM BACK MY POWER!

I want you to monitor today how many times you voluntarily give your power away whether at work, at home or with family and friends. Your power is the greatest tool you have...share it and use it wisely my friends!

Flourishing Empowered Women

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IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow 

Twitter: @milkflows

Your Bills/ Expenses vs Their Bills/Expenses: Slay in Your Lane

Todays Reminder: "YOUR Bills/Expenses vs. THEIR Bills/Expenses are not the same...SLAY IN YOUR LANE!" -  

One of the biggest problems I see on social media are people comparing their lives and making decisions based on someone else's circumstances who they've most likely never met! 

◾YES....she may have made 6 figures but what are her overheads? ...how much of that did she actually KEEP at the end of the day?

◾YES... she may have invested R15 000 in her business but does she have a day job funding the process? 

◾YES ....she may have walked away from her job but was she single or did she have a husband or partner who stepped in to pay the bills until her business took off?

◾YES ...she may work through the night EVERY night but does she have children or is she child free and gets to sleep all day if she wants? 

◾YES ...she may always take trips and buy expensive things but does she have savings or is she about ready to file bankruptcy?

LISTEN  ...my point is this! Only YOU know your circumstances! Use your discretion! ...your life and circumstances are not cookie cutter so don't expect YOUR journey of entrepreneurship to be and stop living for the illusion of fame! Success is living YOUR best life on your terms and in your way...not how someone else says! You create the rules to your success because only you know what truly brings you joy, inner peace, happiness and freedom while still handling your commitments and responsibilities!

Don't let some of these "gurus" influence you out of house and home because you only see the GLAM and not the GRIT in their business! #StopItISay 

#SlayInYourLane #TipOfTheDay 

Flourishing Empowered Women

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IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow 

Twitter: @milkflows

It's OK to not be Ok

Listen if you let social media tell it, everybody's rich, everyone wakes up slayed to the gods and no one has any problems! Now that's #FakeNews

Truth be told we are each going through our individual journeys. navigating the ups and downs of life and sometime simply doing all we can to stay sane in this crazy world we live in! Life happens to all of us and no amount of money can save you from the twists and turns that it brings to each of us in our own separate ways.  

The key is not to expect life to be perfect, know in advance that "stuff" will happen, sometimes you won't be in the mood, sometimes you won't always think positive, sometimes you will want to just give up on everything but the truth is overcoming the challenges will make you a CHAMPION in the end.  Have a 1 hour pity party if you want to but then dry your eyes, pray to God for strength to overcome and then continue on your mission my love.  He's not thru with you yet!

Life can bring you to your knees but its up to you if you choose to stay there!  Choose to stand in FAITH.

Flourishing Empowered Women

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IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow 

Twitter: @milkflows

Not Everyone Is Your Assignment

When God is using you as a #vessel to enlighten and awaken his people you must first realize everyone and everything is NOT your assignment!  There are billions of people in this world and God will align the ones assigned to you to be in the right place at the right time to hear your message. No need to force it, compete or shade others to receive your blessings! God will position you exactly where you need to be if you abide by his #direction, remain humble and let things flow naturally! 

It is for this reason #competition should not exist in your world, because your assignments are already preselected!   It is also for this reason you should focus simply on spreading your authentic message and showing up every day knowing those who are assigned to you will hear you, see you and the right doors will be opened unto you in God's timing! Those who are not assigned to you will move on to find the person who is! #SimpleAsThat 

It is only in being authentic, confident and showing up every day that you leave the door wide open for your assignments to #walk in and find you easily...no need to fight for it my friend! 

Be On A Mission To Find Your Assignments.

Flourishing Empowered Women

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IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow 

Twitter: @milkflows 

New Year - New Mind-set: Lets GO!!!!!

As we start the New Year it is imperative that we drop the things that held us back in 2018!  Truth be told, we are the ones that usually hold ourselves back more than anyone else!  Through negative thoughts, self-limiting beliefs and self-sabotage, we have a habit of picking up habits that serve no purpose! 

The problem with habits is that they stick around...even when you don't want them to. They do not disappear on their own...you have to consciously remove them by changing your DAILY thought patterns and action.  They say it takes 21 days to break a habit so that means it will take almost a month to change some of the habits you have adopted.

My question is this..."is a month dedicated to breaking bad habits worth living your best life for the rest of your life?” Only you can answer this question. Life is truly what you make it...when you start to think with an abundant, positive, solution orientated mind-set you will find life suddenly changes for the better.  

Start to view your cup as half full and not half empty, see the beauty in everything and above all develop a mind-set of GRATITUDE in all things!  

It works...TRUST ME!

Flourishing Empowered Women

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IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow 

Twitter: @milkflows 

Remember Your Purpose: Don't Get Distracted !!!

The truth is every single day of our lives will bring a distraction!  

Whether it's a delay from home, traffic jam making you late for work or appointment, missing a deadline, kids acting up in school or a leaking geyser!  Fact of the matter is ....S#*% HAPPENS!

Something unexpected constantly comes out of the woodwork causing us to put our dreams, our mission, our passions and our plans on hold (yet again) for another day.  Sad thing is, there will always be an excuse to put something off until tomorrow until you decide to make it a priority today.

Although we cannot change the storms that life may bring, we can adjust our wings.  If you learn to see distractions as merely something sent to deter you from your mission and purpose, you will start to recognize that you have the choice of whether to allow that intended distraction to stop you or not.  Life is not about what happens to us but rather how we respond to it, learn from it and grow from it. We can't continue to give up during every "unexpected" moments.

We are the most hardest on ourselves when we expect things to be perfect!  We want the perfect timing, the perfect life, the perfect business, the perfect relationships and the perfect bank accounts when perfection does not exist and is merely the perception of each individual based on his/her morals, values, beliefs and experiences.

Today I challenge you to push through regardless of your circumstances. 

Flourishing Empowered Women
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IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow
Twitter: @milkflows

Transition Time

During major transitions in your life, the enemy will expose itself and those that are no longer aligned on your journey will fall away! Be still knowing that it is simply God cleaning out your closet...don't try to fight it or hang onto things he has thrown out! He is preparing space for those aligned for your next season!

"When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty but of her weirdness. They wanted her to change back into what she always had been....but it was too late, she now had WINGS!🦋 " - Dean Jackson

Change scares those who are content with remaining the same so everyone won't understand your new journey, won't be comfortable with it or supportive about it! That is ok...continue to fly anyway, the journey is yours not theirs! You have missions to accomplish and no time to waste! One day they'll know your story but until then keep soaring high and continue to give God the glory! It's time to transform from caterpillar to butterfly my Queens regardless of the naysayers...while they keep talking, you keep praying, slaying and accomplishing unapologetically!

Flourishing Empowered Women

http://flowrishingtheewomen.blogspot.com  

IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow 

Twitter: @milkflows