Defeat the darkness - Be the Light

 

 

 

When you think about it, darkness has no real power. All the darkness in the universe can’t put out the littlest flame. The darkest darkness can’t travel through a window. The deepest darkness can’t be reflected in a mirror.

 

Darkness only has power when we believe that there are monsters lurking it. Then we grow afraid, angry and desperate. We build entire mythologies around them. But they were never really there at all. Because the moment we light a flame, they are instantly dispelled.

 

Another way to put that is:

 

The smallest ember is more powerful than all the darkness in the universe. It alone can drive the darkness out. Reflected, even the smallest flame can burn away all the darkness that ever was. But the greatest darkness cannot even touch the smallest flame with the slightest caress.

 

The same is true in you, is it not?

 

The darkness in you is powerful only when you believe there are monsters lurking in it. Rejection, inferiority, dishonor, loss, failure. We imagine these things and more constantly. Then there is anger, vengeance, grief. Whatever the monsters are, there they dwell, in the darkness.

 

But they are not really real. They are just anticipations, expectations, projections. So they are illusions, are they not?

 

You may imagine these illusions are powerful. But they will only take away your power. You will be chasing phantoms, will you not? What power is there in that? When we are directed by anger, fear, envy, spite, that is what we are doing. Our lives feel futile because they are.

 

 

How do we drive them out instead? Even the smallest spark will do.

 

The smallest spark of compassion for your adversaries, empathy for those who differ from you, forgiveness for those who have hurt you. Beginning with you. The littlest flame of rebellion, creativity, gratitude, imagination, appreciation, truth. In every small intention and action.

 

The moment these come into being you, and all around you, see the monsters as they truly are. Not as evil creatures with the terrible power to make you suffer. But just feeble, frightened people, trapped in the darkness, imagining monsters, just like you.

 

We are all each other’s monsters, are we not? What does that tell us? We are all in the same cave. It is dark. We imagine others as monsters. But when we light a spark, then we see they are just like us. Afraid because they are imagining monsters. But now you see the monsters are just each one suffering, powerless beings. Who have taken away their own power by imagining monsters in the darkness.

 

Don’t take away your power. You do that when you imagine monsters. But you have the greatest power in all creation. The power to light a spark. Any tiny light defeats the greatest darkness, remember?

 

There is nothing more powerful that ever will be than the many names of love. It is the most powerful thing that can be. Because it brings all suffering things together in the light, and teaches them the impossible beauty of life.

 

 

Seek the darkness. Be the spark. That is where your power lies. Darkness is the littlest thing in all creation. You are the mightiest. You just don’t know it yet.

 

 

Flourishing Empowered Women
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Seeing with your heart {Look inside. Not outside }

There you are. Here I am.

Can we ever really know one another? There is a gap greater than worlds between us. My experience is mine, and yours is yours. How can we bridge it, limited things that we are? I can’t step into your mind.

So we try with the only crude tools we have.

You tell me who you are. I tell you who I am. I try to listen. But what can I really hear? I hear what I think, my inner voice, before I hear you. You hear yourself thinking before you speak to me. Now there is conflict, dissonance, noise, all these voices competing to be heard. The distance between us is greater this way, not less.

You watch me. I watch you. I try to see you, you try to see me. But I am really just watching the idea of you. You are watching the idea of me. Now there is imperfection, need, desire. Are you what I want? Do you live up to my ideal? Are you part of my tribe? We are seeing through the broken mirror of mind. The distance between us this way is the greatest of all.

I close my eyes. You close your eyes.

I let all this thinking, talking, watching go. I go deep inside me, to see you. Until I reach perfect stillness.

I watch myself. Watch myself thinking, knowing, needing. I watch myself suffering, clinging, trying to hold onto the wave mind calls a self.

Now I really see what is.

The ocean in me. It is the same ocean in you. Just like me, you are thinking, needing, clinging, holding onto your wave. Just like me, you have suffered, fought, held, surrendered, wondered, imagined, created, loved. That is what a wave does.

Now I see you.

I saw you not by opening my eyes. That closed my heart. I saw you by closing my eyes. So I could see with my heart.

Now when you tell me your story, I see the wave in you, travelling across the same ocean as me. How it grew, struggled, travelled. Just like mine did. Now I see you with love, compassion, real understanding, true wisdom. I see you now, because I have seen that the ocean in is the ocean in me.

We look, but we don’t see. You are a wave, I am a wave. Each wave is different. But the story of the wave is the same. Each returns to and is born from the same ocean. Each life is all life in this great way.

I must look through me to really see you. Not at you. That way, there is no seeing at all.

The ocean in you is the ocean in me. If you really want to see people, look inside, not outside. Until you reach it, find it, see it. And you will see everyone you meet for the first time, every time.



Flourishing Empowered Women
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Breast Cancer Awareness Month - Celebrate that woman

There are different symptoms of breast cancer and some people have no symptoms at all. Symptoms can include any change in the size or the shape of the breast, pain in any area of the breast, nipple discharge other than breast milk (including blood), and a new lump in the breast or underarm. If you have any signs that worry you, see your doctor right away.

Women, I see you. I celebrate you. The strength and courage in you is worthy to be celebrated 👑👑👑👑

#MakeYourOwnMagic
#Flow

Flourishing Empowered Women
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Twitter: @milkflows

Challenge your mind, make positive choices

Choice is one of the few things that most people leave out of the equation when thinking about all of the reasons that separates those who achieve their biggest goals and dreams compared to those who don’t. The one thing that each and every one of us has is the incredible potential to live a remarkable life and be great in our own right.

We choose our habits. We choose the action or lack of action that we are going to take on a daily basis. We choose how hard we work. We choose what we think about all day long. 

Everything that you do on a daily basis comes from a choice. Living a better life, building a more successful business and becoming happier all comes down to making better choices.

Here are three questions that can greatly benefit the direction and quality of your life if you begin asking and answering them regularly.

1. Where am I right now?

This is an extremely powerful question to ask yourself because most people don’t even take five minutes out of their days to think about where they currently are in life. They know deep down that they are miserable but they just continue to coast along the path they are headed down because they fail to ask this important question.

The key when asking this particular question is to be honest with yourself. When you are honest with yourself, you are offered the opportunity for growth that will in the long run help you get to where you want to go.

Some days I have setbacks and don’t take strides forward, but as long as I am honest with myself when asking this question before I go to bed, I am able to know where I stand and the steps needed to move forward. Take the time to analyze your life and really take a long and hard look at where you currently are.

2. Where do I want to be?

This question is all about what you want out of your life. 

What are you putting in the long hours for?

What gets you so excited that it keeps you up at night?

Once you know where you currently are in life, you then must analyze where you want to be.

Most people have no clue where they want to be. They wake up in the morning an hour before they have to be in the office, go to work, do enough to get the job done and then head home before they have to do it all over again the next day. They follow the same pattern until retirement stage. 

If you don’t take the time to think about where you want to be, the circumstances of life and other people’s agendas will determine that for you. You deserve better.

3. What are the steps needed to bridge the gap?

The third question requires actual work and action, it’s easier to neglect it. After you discover where you currently are and where you want to be, the next question that you must ask yourself is what must be done to bridge the gap between the two? This is going to require several sessions of strategic thinking on your part, and may even take several weeks.

The answers to this question will never stop. As time goes on, more answers will come your way. The more you strategically think about what you have to do to get to where you want to go, the better and more efficient answers will begin coming to you.

Whether you are talking about an individual or organization, these are three questions that when answered carefully can dramatically increase efficiency, performance and motivation.

When you take time out to answer these questions regularly, you give your life meaning and purpose. The power of choice is truly extraordinary.

#MakeYourOwnMagic

#Flow

Flourishing Empowered Women

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twitter: @milkflows 

Fight For Your Dreams

Some days, you have to put on your big girl pants and go fight the powers that be.

Sometimes it just takes a little reminder that helps us to realize incredible potential that lies within us. As a woman, you do not only provide the necessary essentials for life, but you also have the power to create life. Without you, the circle would be far from closed.

You are able to transform and to change, which allows you to leave all negativity behind. Don’t allow others to decide about your life, but instead seize the power that lies within you.

A strong, independent woman has the courage to be the best version of herself. Yes, it takes courage and strength, but it is worthwhile. Until you start trying to become the best you can be, you never really know the true potential that is within you. But if you have the courage to embrace your potential you will be able to make an important contribution to the advancement of this planet.

Our society places too much emphasis on sheer looks, but neglects to discover the true beauty within. There’s only one true ideal of beauty, which is to be yourself no matter what others say.

Many women complain about being trampled upon. The sad thing is that taking up the role of being a victim does not help in solving the problem. If you really want to become do something about the situation, then you will have to be proactive and do something about it. Otherwise, people will continue to trample upon you.

Have the courage to make a stand for what you believe in. No matter how powerful the enemy, be a woman who always gets back up on her feet and continue to stand up against your enemies. However, with the courage to stand up for what you believe in you will also be confronted with the question whether or not you want to stand up to your friends. Have the courage to stand up to your friends, even if it is causing difficulties for you.

Aside from standing up for what you believe in, you should never allow anybody to frighten you about speaking up for yourself. Make your voice heard in the world, otherwise others will speak for you. Speaking up for yourself takes courage, but it is a habit you can develop. Fight for the realization of your dream. Remember that there will always be people trying to dissuade you from living your dreams, so make sure you have some good arguments at hand that help you to speak up for yourself.

Keep fighting for your dreams.

#MakeYourOwnMagic

#Flow

Flourishing Empowered Women

http://flowrishingtheewomen.blogspot.com
IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow

twitter: @milkflows

Absolute Women Club Launch

My friend and I received invites to Absolute Women Club launch. We were so excited and honoured. Two nights before the launch my friend calls and says we have to be at the launch at 9am “Jeez”. May I be honest? I don’t wake up early on weekends. Saturdays are meant for sleeping. I quickly changed my mind-set and told myself that I’d be working. I’ll be networking and meeting people with possible business leads.

I arrived a few minutes late, the program had already started and most sits were already occupied. It was so unprofessional of me and I remember thinking to myself “if I was any of these women with shares in well-known brands, would I take myself serious and give me an opportunity to be part of the brand?” of course no. The point I’m trying to make here is, if you want to see changes in your life, be successful and part of leading women, then you have to make a few changes in your life. Start doing things differently and change your mind-set.

Back to the launch.

The event took place at Black Olive House in Quellerina and the place looked stunning. The décor was point and the ladies looked awesome.

Enough yada-yada lets looks at the pictures:

  Mrs Mathabo Kunene (Mazisi Kunene Foundation Executive Director) shared some words of wisdom and how she moved from just a literature paper to being a share holder at Bidvest

Faith Mkhombe (CEO of Absolute Women club) with this lovely woman in green

Carol Mhlarhi, Faith Mkhombe and Flow

Faith with Naked-DJ from Metro FM

Mathabo Kunene with these beautiful ladies.

This talented woman from Nozi Designs showed us a few tricks on how to dress our bodies

These ladies were there for business. The focus

Personal introductions took place

Faith with her lovely cousin

She's a true supporter. From Durban to Johannesburg

The place was packed

The decor

Nicely branded goodie bags from Absolute Women Club

Personalised cup cakes. The caterers really went all out

These were yummy

The ladies took a break and indulged themselves

Mathabo engaging with more ladies

Who can forget this bubbly soul from The Blue Train

Lunch was served

More guests

Thabisile from Ubuhlebethu (Beauty and image studio)

 

Thank you @Absolutewomenclub. We had so much fun.

This was indeed Flowrishing

Flourishing Empowered Women

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flow@lourelcholdings.co.za

Women In Lead: High Tea Event

On the 31 of July 2016, women who are eager to succeed and empower each other made their way to Grand Life Café in Hyde Park for a High Tea Event with both Divine Women Empowerment and Ziphora Events. The place looked awesome with awesome decors of cupcakes and packed with beautiful guests.





Naledi Molemo


 MC of the event. What a bubbly personality and soul she has.

  Carol Mhlarhi (Owner and Founder of Divine Women Empowerment and Lourel.C.Holdings) shared some inspiring words of wisdom. In her own words “Make your passion your pay-cheque"

Tshepiso Makhubedu (Speaker and Entrepreneur) discussed the Personal Branding and the importance of appearance.

Ladies from Dermalogica were there to teach us more about our skins and how to take good care of it..

Sive (Founder of Sive Hope Foundation) took the event to another level and emotionally connected with everyone while discussing emotional decluttering. Most importantly, we all left eager to face the demons that keep haunting us, unmasked ourselves, understood that it was ok to cry and freed ourselves.



Etv’s own Sisterhood crew was there to cover the event

Boitumelo Makhubele (Owner and MD of Ziphora Events) shared a few words of advise and appreciation.

More pictures from the event.

I was also there. Co-Owner of Lourel.C.Holdings and Founder of Flowrishing Women

 

I must say, the event was amazing. It’s good to be surrounded by women who have one common goal “Lead”. I’ve made a lot of new connections and can’t wait to be working with them in the near future.

Hope to meet more ladies in the future.

Keep Flowrishing.

Flourishing Empowered Women

http://flowrishingtheewomen.blogspot.com
IG: @milkflow twitter: @milkflows

flow@lourelcholdings.co.za