Never Negotiate with The Inner Bitch!!!

THERE’S A LITTLE BITCH LIVING IN ALL OF US...

...that’s the bad news.

The good news is that there’s a fucking beast living in all of us, too.The BEAST knows what needs to get done to reach your fullest potential in life.

The little bitch however is always creeping in your head and trying to negotiate with you and talk you out of what you need to and should do...

“Take the easy way out”

“No one will know”

“It’s okay to hit the snooze button”

“Just one more drink”

“It’s okay to skip the workout, you need the rest anyway”

“It’s just a small lie, no one will get hurt”

And once you begin negotiating with your inner bitch the slippery slope of bad decisions begin.

THERE’S A LESSON IN THIS FOR YOU...

Choose hard over easy.

Keep your promise to yourself.

Set higher standards of expectations.

Do the things that others aren’t willing to do.

Kill the little bitch within and feed your inner beast!

Flourishing Empowered Women 

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Be Ready For Anything

I'm sure we've all heard that a positive mindset can change your life but that's all good until some unexpected BS happens....right? Truth be told most of us can look on the bright side on a sunny day but how clearly are you able to still visualize the sun when it's raining?

No matter how many affirmations, good vibes and inspirational books you read ...life will always find a way to smack you in the face when you least expect it. Rather than telling ourselves that as long as we think positive, negative situations won't occur, it's better to expect things to go wrong but remain confident, faithful and positive enough to know that no matter what it is, you can survive and then find a solution to overcome it. 

The art of a positive mindset is not expecting everything to be perfect but remaining calm and collected enough to see the light at the end of the tunnel when things go left. 

Don't wake up this week expecting everything to be perfect...simply wake up knowing that whatever happens, YOU ARE EQUIPPED TO HANDLE IT! YOU GOT THIS SIS! 

Flourishing Empowered Women 

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The Secret to Having it All in Life....

The secret to having it all in life is to suffer for the outcome.
Sis, think about it; the second you’re born you have to suffer for your first breath of air.
An acorn planted will suffer in the cold, heat, during droughts and floods all while pushing through the dense earth to become a mighty oak tree.
What makes you think that anything else should come easy?
Finding your way in life won’t be easy.
Finding your voice in this world won’t be easy.

Finding your calling won’t be easy.

Starting a business won’t be easy.

Growing a business won’t be easy.

Amassing wealth won’t be easy.

Starting a family won’t be easy.

Staying fit and healthy won’t be easy.

Life isn’t meant to be easy folks.

Suffering is the way. And it’s that way by design.

When you suffer you grow.
When you suffer you appreciate.
When you suffer you gain greater understanding and wisdom.

When you suffer you harden up...
AND THAT’S REALLY THE BIG FACTOR HERE.
But here’s the problem that you and many others are experiencing.
You’re too soft and you’ve let yourself off the hook for far too long.
Society has set the bar low and you’ve accepted it and now you just “fake” try everything...
...and when shit gets hard like it’s supposed to, most people back down, find an excuse and quit.
Easy has become the default for most.
Easy is NOT the way.
If you really want it, you’ll have to earn it, so you’ll suffer for the outcome and you’ll be a better person for it.



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11 Habits That Winners Possess That Keeps Them Keep Winning

1) They show up even when they don’t feel like it.

2) When they’re winning they try even harder.

3) They don’t make excuses for losing. They own it, learn from it and come back to dominate.

4) They know that winning is rented and the rent is due everyday.

5) They help others win.

6) They keep their actions congruent with their goals.

7) They never dodge responsibility.

8) They stay away from negativity and gossip.

9) They believe in themselves and their ability to win more than anyone else.

10) They’ve already won in their heads.

11) They never give up.

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COMPLACENCY KILLS DREAMS AND AMBITIONS

REAL TALK: When you settle for average and accept mediocrity as your default you’re killing your dreams, ambitions and desires.

Do you think your mom said she wants her child to be of average health?

> Of average wealth?

> Or have an average job?

> Or be with an average person?

> And live an average life?

But too many of y’all are settling for just being average by hanging around average people and talking about average shit.

If you’re wondering why you’re not further ahead in life - it’s because you’ve chosen to settle and gotten complacent.

Level up your standards of expectations, the people and the conversions around you.

I’d rather be alone and have an intelligent conversion with myself, than hang around a bunch of losers who have accepted mediocrity as their default.

Try that on for size for 30 days and see how fucking awesome your life can get. 🤙🏼🦍

Flourishing Empowered Women

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How Many Times Do you Give Your Power Away?

The truth is many of us spend our entire lives giving our power away and letting people drain our batteries whenever they please.  My question is this ...is that a problem with them or with you?

I remember a time I would say "yes" to everyone and everything.  I believed it was the right thing to do, to make others happy regardless of how I felt, to cater to others regardless of whether my needs got met, to give my last even when I could find nobody to give me theirs and to be there for everybody who needed me...after all I was called to be ALL THINGS TO ALL PEOPLE right?...actually here's where many of us go WRONG! We cannot pour from an empty cup yet most of us try to do that every day.  As they say, "self preservation is not selfish, it's necessary"

Then there were those who seemed to live just to intentionally irk my last nerves!  They came in the shape of micro-managing bosses, annoying coworkers and troublesome family members.  Once again draining more of my battery. These people had the power to make me mad, upset and ready to go to jail ...I'm sure many of you relate! I mean it wasn't my fault they were jackasses right?

Actually it was my fault.  I made 2 huge mistakes:

LESSON 1:  I had taught them how to treat me and by that I mean ...I had taught them that they could use me however they please with no boundaries or repercussions and technically had allowed them to steal every last drop of energy from me until I had nothing left to give myself.  Funny thing about that, they simply moved on to drain someone else's battery never for one moment stopping to see if I needed a little extra juice to keep me going. Welcome to LIFE!

LESSON 2: I had been freely giving my power away to people by allowing them to control my emotions.  I was letting everything "they" did get to me, acting like it was life and death rather than realizing it was just a job to pay the bills until I could do what I wanted.  Understanding that my annoying coworker was probably a lost soul who needed forgiveness and prayer rather than an butt whooping and that my troubled family member actually might need some professional help.

Did you notice something?  All any of it took was a MINDSET SHIFT! The lessons I learned and now live by allowed me to set boundaries, recharge my batteries, think better, see clearer, become less emotional and above all CLAIM BACK MY POWER!

I want you to monitor today how many times you voluntarily give your power away whether at work, at home or with family and friends. Your power is the greatest tool you have...share it and use it wisely my friends!

Flourishing Empowered Women

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Your Bills/ Expenses vs Their Bills/Expenses: Slay in Your Lane

Todays Reminder: "YOUR Bills/Expenses vs. THEIR Bills/Expenses are not the same...SLAY IN YOUR LANE!" -  

One of the biggest problems I see on social media are people comparing their lives and making decisions based on someone else's circumstances who they've most likely never met! 

◾YES....she may have made 6 figures but what are her overheads? ...how much of that did she actually KEEP at the end of the day?

◾YES... she may have invested R15 000 in her business but does she have a day job funding the process? 

◾YES ....she may have walked away from her job but was she single or did she have a husband or partner who stepped in to pay the bills until her business took off?

◾YES ...she may work through the night EVERY night but does she have children or is she child free and gets to sleep all day if she wants? 

◾YES ...she may always take trips and buy expensive things but does she have savings or is she about ready to file bankruptcy?

LISTEN  ...my point is this! Only YOU know your circumstances! Use your discretion! ...your life and circumstances are not cookie cutter so don't expect YOUR journey of entrepreneurship to be and stop living for the illusion of fame! Success is living YOUR best life on your terms and in your way...not how someone else says! You create the rules to your success because only you know what truly brings you joy, inner peace, happiness and freedom while still handling your commitments and responsibilities!

Don't let some of these "gurus" influence you out of house and home because you only see the GLAM and not the GRIT in their business! #StopItISay 

#SlayInYourLane #TipOfTheDay 

Flourishing Empowered Women

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It's OK to not be Ok

Listen if you let social media tell it, everybody's rich, everyone wakes up slayed to the gods and no one has any problems! Now that's #FakeNews

Truth be told we are each going through our individual journeys. navigating the ups and downs of life and sometime simply doing all we can to stay sane in this crazy world we live in! Life happens to all of us and no amount of money can save you from the twists and turns that it brings to each of us in our own separate ways.  

The key is not to expect life to be perfect, know in advance that "stuff" will happen, sometimes you won't be in the mood, sometimes you won't always think positive, sometimes you will want to just give up on everything but the truth is overcoming the challenges will make you a CHAMPION in the end.  Have a 1 hour pity party if you want to but then dry your eyes, pray to God for strength to overcome and then continue on your mission my love.  He's not thru with you yet!

Life can bring you to your knees but its up to you if you choose to stay there!  Choose to stand in FAITH.

Flourishing Empowered Women

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Not Everyone Is Your Assignment

When God is using you as a #vessel to enlighten and awaken his people you must first realize everyone and everything is NOT your assignment!  There are billions of people in this world and God will align the ones assigned to you to be in the right place at the right time to hear your message. No need to force it, compete or shade others to receive your blessings! God will position you exactly where you need to be if you abide by his #direction, remain humble and let things flow naturally! 

It is for this reason #competition should not exist in your world, because your assignments are already preselected!   It is also for this reason you should focus simply on spreading your authentic message and showing up every day knowing those who are assigned to you will hear you, see you and the right doors will be opened unto you in God's timing! Those who are not assigned to you will move on to find the person who is! #SimpleAsThat 

It is only in being authentic, confident and showing up every day that you leave the door wide open for your assignments to #walk in and find you easily...no need to fight for it my friend! 

Be On A Mission To Find Your Assignments.

Flourishing Empowered Women

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Twitter: @milkflows 

New Year - New Mind-set: Lets GO!!!!!

As we start the New Year it is imperative that we drop the things that held us back in 2018!  Truth be told, we are the ones that usually hold ourselves back more than anyone else!  Through negative thoughts, self-limiting beliefs and self-sabotage, we have a habit of picking up habits that serve no purpose! 

The problem with habits is that they stick around...even when you don't want them to. They do not disappear on their own...you have to consciously remove them by changing your DAILY thought patterns and action.  They say it takes 21 days to break a habit so that means it will take almost a month to change some of the habits you have adopted.

My question is this..."is a month dedicated to breaking bad habits worth living your best life for the rest of your life?” Only you can answer this question. Life is truly what you make it...when you start to think with an abundant, positive, solution orientated mind-set you will find life suddenly changes for the better.  

Start to view your cup as half full and not half empty, see the beauty in everything and above all develop a mind-set of GRATITUDE in all things!  

It works...TRUST ME!

Flourishing Empowered Women

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Twitter: @milkflows 

Remember Your Purpose: Don't Get Distracted !!!

The truth is every single day of our lives will bring a distraction!  

Whether it's a delay from home, traffic jam making you late for work or appointment, missing a deadline, kids acting up in school or a leaking geyser!  Fact of the matter is ....S#*% HAPPENS!

Something unexpected constantly comes out of the woodwork causing us to put our dreams, our mission, our passions and our plans on hold (yet again) for another day.  Sad thing is, there will always be an excuse to put something off until tomorrow until you decide to make it a priority today.

Although we cannot change the storms that life may bring, we can adjust our wings.  If you learn to see distractions as merely something sent to deter you from your mission and purpose, you will start to recognize that you have the choice of whether to allow that intended distraction to stop you or not.  Life is not about what happens to us but rather how we respond to it, learn from it and grow from it. We can't continue to give up during every "unexpected" moments.

We are the most hardest on ourselves when we expect things to be perfect!  We want the perfect timing, the perfect life, the perfect business, the perfect relationships and the perfect bank accounts when perfection does not exist and is merely the perception of each individual based on his/her morals, values, beliefs and experiences.

Today I challenge you to push through regardless of your circumstances. 

Flourishing Empowered Women
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Transition Time

During major transitions in your life, the enemy will expose itself and those that are no longer aligned on your journey will fall away! Be still knowing that it is simply God cleaning out your closet...don't try to fight it or hang onto things he has thrown out! He is preparing space for those aligned for your next season!

"When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty but of her weirdness. They wanted her to change back into what she always had been....but it was too late, she now had WINGS!🦋 " - Dean Jackson

Change scares those who are content with remaining the same so everyone won't understand your new journey, won't be comfortable with it or supportive about it! That is ok...continue to fly anyway, the journey is yours not theirs! You have missions to accomplish and no time to waste! One day they'll know your story but until then keep soaring high and continue to give God the glory! It's time to transform from caterpillar to butterfly my Queens regardless of the naysayers...while they keep talking, you keep praying, slaying and accomplishing unapologetically!

Flourishing Empowered Women

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Being Empowered is Being Self-Aware

As you go through life, you will be exposed to many thoughts and ideas. Sometimes those thoughts and ideas can be so strongly impressed upon you that you begin to believe them and they become part of who you are. 

Being empowered is being self-aware and having self-control. Although you can’t always control what thoughts come to your mind, you can always choose to adjust them or erase them. You can choose if your thoughts become words or actions. You can choose if and how your thoughts affect other people. 

Before you allow a thought to become a thing, I encourage you to fact check it. Take what you think seriously as your thoughts have the power to manifest things into your life, influence the people around you, and impact future generations. 

Just imagine how much different the world would be if all racists and misogynists thought like this.

Flourishing Empowered Women

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The cost of delayed action is high; the cost of no action is even higher

I say this all the time:

1. Identify where your competition is uncomfortable and/or unwilling to go

2. Then go there as hard and as often as you can

The thing is too many businesses think about those words and apply it to themselves but forget that some of their competition are also doing the same thing.

Your competition is always waiting for one of two things to happen:

1. You give up

2. You play it safe - get left behind

Now as entrepreneurs,

One is less likely. 'Giving up' tends to not run in our DNA.

Two is far more likely. Many entrepreneurs ‘play it safe’ and therefore get left behind by their:

A) Market

Or 

B) Competition

Now ‘playing it safe’ can mean a number of different things.

Playing it safe could mean:

[+] Hoarding your cash without ever investing into assets 

[+] Not investing into advertising because “It’s too risky"

[+] Never attempting change up your advertising strategies (Taking risks with new copy, offers, etc…)

[+] Refusing to pay for help because you think you can “do it on your own” (consultants, coaches, better employees, etc…)

The last one draws into the question of what the time value of money is for you.

The bottom lines is, as soon as you stop innovating, taking risks, and setting the bar, that is when your competition moves ahead and takes the lead.

>> As soon as a gazelle forgets that there can be a lion among the grass is when the lion makes its move.

A moving target is always harder to catch than a still target.

What are the best ways to keep moving forward? How do you continue to build your business?

Flourishing Empowered Women
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Twitter: @milkflows

Empowerment Over Ego

Today's Definition of Women Supporting Women in Social Media Land!!!

I sit back and observe daily.......

• The level of shade thrown constantly
• The hateful competition and the slandering
• The blocking and deleting
• The relishing in other's misery
• The users and opportunists
• The accusations and lack of integrity
• The fact that many of the ones screaming "support" are also the ones doing the backstabbing, blocking and sabotaging...expecting others to bow down and worship them!

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Then there are those who use quotes from the #bible to justify their indiscretions whenever they can! Not to mention the fake clapping, smiling and passive aggressiveness!

What hurts the most with everything is that these things often come from those claiming to be advocates for "Women Supporting Women!"

It seems like nowadays some sisterhoods are just another glorified way of telling the next woman...."you can't sit with us!"

Yes, this is the new Social Media world we live in!!!

With just one click of a button people have become experts in fields they've NEVER mastered and provide lessons in subjects they've never taken, while God has become the justified reason for stealing work from the competition and tearing down anyone who seems to be doing better than them has become the new mission!

This is now the world we live in!

WE'VE GOT TO DO BETTER my #Queens!

Just my humble opinion! 

Flourishing Empowered Women
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Twitter: @milkflows

iKamva Le Zintombi: Peers in Pyjama Drive

A lot of times when we get together, we empower and learn from one another. That’s self-serving.

But this time iKamva Le Zintombi is reaching out to the mass for even a greater purpose. Winter is here and the ladies have started a Pyjama drive for all sizes and genders until the 1^st of June 2018. As you prepare for winter, please consider our brothers and sisters out there who are not fortunate enough to keep themselves warm.

We might never get to meet the people we are helping but this is for a great trajectory.

As we give we open hearts, we sending a message of hope to those in the cold out there, telling them this is not the end of their chapter.

Let us strive to introduce hope, inject solutions with a method and a plan. Giving back has never made anyone poor.

Flourishing Empowered Women
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Twitter: @milkflows

Wing it, Then Win it!!!

The truth that’s not always told is that, most of the successful people you know "winged" it to the top!  ...

No amount of degrees and titles can spiritually prepare you for the daily challenges of life and no amount of money can surpass God's anointing and favour over your life!

People will tell you that you can't make it because you don't have a degree; you don't have money or you are not part of a certain "clique"....don't believe the hype my dear! There are people with money, degrees and cliques still not making it! 

The truth is no one can see the future and no one knows what tomorrow brings. Many successes are the result of trial and error...more than once! Stop letting a lack of funds, support and education stop you from moving forward! 

All it takes is one huge leap of faith to move mountains! Show up daily, research your industry, read books, go to classes, learn from the best ...then take that next step! Trust me when I say God will handle the rest! 

"WING" it, then "WIN" it my friend!  

Flourishing Empowered Women
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Dear Boss Lady, Sacrifices Are Made To Succeed!!!

Do not envy a successful woman! Even though success looks pretty, what you don't see is the behind the scenes sacrifice that is required to achieve it!

• You don't see the moments when she sacrifices entertainment for work
•   You don't see the times when she struggles financially to see her dreams become a reality!
•  You don’t see the late nights she spends planning
•  You don't see the times she gets tired or discouraged but pushes herself to show up anyway!
• You don't see the things she gives away for free or to charity
• You dont see how much she prays.

If a woman reaches a level that you admire...just know that she earned it and deserves it! Don't hate on her, be motivated by her. If she can do it, so can you...just be ready to SACRIFICE like she did too! 

Flourishing Empowered Women
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IF YOU KNEW YOU WERE GOING TO DIE ONE YEAR FROM TODAY, WHAT WOULD YOU DO AND HOW WOULD YOU WANT TO BE REMEMBERED?

Most of us don’t like thinking about death. It freaks us out. But thinking about our own death surprisingly has a lot of practical advantages. One of those advantages is that it forces us to zero in on what’s actually important in our lives and what’s just frivolous and distracting.

Think about your lives in a different way and re-evaluate what your priorities were.

What is your legacy going to be? What are the stories people are going to tell when you’re gone? What is your obituary going to say? Is there anything to say at all? If not, what would you like it to say? How can you start working towards that today? And again, if you fantasize about your obituary saying a bunch of badass shit that impresses a bunch of random other people, then again, you’re failing here.

When people feel like they have no sense of direction, no purpose in their life, it’s because they don’t know what’s important to them, they don’t know what their values are.

And when you don’t know what your values are, then you’re essentially taking on other people’s values and living other people’s priorities instead of your own. This is a one-way ticket to unhealthy relationships and eventual misery.

Discovering one’s “purpose” in life essentially boils down to finding those one or two things that are bigger than yourself, and bigger than those around you. It’s not about some great achievement, but merely finding a way to spend your limited amount of time well. And to do that you must get off your couch and act, and take the time to think beyond yourself, to think greater than yourself, and paradoxically, to imagine a world without yourself.

Flourishing Empowered Women
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Passion is the result of action, not the cause of it.

For many of us, the enemy is just old-fashioned complacency. We get into our routines. We distract ourselves. The couch is comfortable. Eating is the order of the day and nothing new happens.

This is a problem.

What most people don’t understand is that passion is the result of action, not the cause of it.

Discovering what you’re passionate about in life and what matters to you is a full-contact sport, a trial-and-error process. None of us know exactly how we feel about an activity until we actually do the activity.

So ask yourself, if someone put a gun to your head and forced you to leave your house every day for everything except for sleep & eating, how would you choose to keep busy? And note, being on social media doesn't count, that's what you do every day already. You probably already do that. 

Let’s pretend you don't have a phone and can't escape to social media and you no choice but to be outside of the house all day every day until it’s time to go to bed — where would you go and what would you do?

Sign up for a dance class? Join a book club? Go get another degree? Invent a new form of irrigation system that can save the thousands of children in Africa? 

What would you do with all of that time?

If it helps, write down a few answers, go out and actually do them. Bonus points if it involves embarrassing yourself.

Flourishing Empowered Women
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IG: @flowrishingwomen @milkflow
Twitter: @milkflows